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What a Women Wants , What a Women Needs?

AFFECTION
Early in a relationship, affection is given freely - a hug here, a massage there.But over time, you'll be lucky to get a peck on the cheek before you leave for work.Women often associate affection with security, comfort, protection and approval.When a man shows his wife affection, he's sending subliminal messages to her that he'll take care of her,stand by her and protwect her.so for the typical woman, there can never be too much affection.

CONVERSATIONS
Remember the days when you talked on the phone for hours and it still wasn't enough?Now, you're lucky if his eyes don't glaze 30 seconds after you open your mouth."when women have intimate conversations with their spouce, its reassures them and make them feel love and supported.Couples should build upon such interaction even after marriage to avoid misunderstanding and miscommunication,and to avoid drifting apart," says Daniel Koh, a psychologist with insights Mind Cenntre.When couple dont communicate, either or both parties may start looking to a third party to fulfil that need.

HONESTY AND OPENNESS
A woman needs to be able to trust her husband completely.She gets a sense of security from knowing her spouse's thoughts, habits, feelings, likes, dislikes, personal history,daily activities and future plans.When a man doesn't maintain an honest, open communication with his wife, he undermines her trust.However, Thiam Hong advises couples to decide on what they'd like to share and what they rather keep private,as some confessions may not benefit the relationship."it's good to be open and honest, just remember to wiegh the consequences first" he adds.

FINANCIAL SUPPORT
Many women marry for the financial security their spouse provides.That's not to mean that a woman needs to marry a tycoon to be happy,but that she needs enough money to live comfortably.Couples may have differing views on what constitutes financial support, so it's important to discuss financial issue with your spouse.FAMILY COMMITMENTA woman needs her husband to be good father and to be committed to the family. Family commitment goes beyond just feeding and clothing a child; it includes being responsible for the child's development and spending quality time with him.

What a Man Wants , What a Man Needs?

SEXUAL FULFILMENT
Most women can go without sex for months, but for men, it's pure torture.In fact, they would probably do it all the time if they had their way.The fact is that men are made this way; it doesn't mean they're sleazy or sex-crazed."The lack of sex in a marriage is unhealthy and often leads to dissatisfaction and even infidelity.When marred couples have sex in a mutually respectful manner, they feel connected, wanted, reassured and loved," says Thiam Hong.Some men demand sex from their wives, who may give in but not enjoy the exprience.Associating sex with pain rather than pleasure triggers an aversion to sex and may cause her to find ways to avoid sex.The best way for a man to have his sexual needs met regularly is to ensure that his spouse enjoys the exprience too.

RECREATIONAL COMPANIONSHIP
When acouples are dating, the women will usually join their men in pursuing their interests as they want to spend time with the one they love.The same is true of men, who will often accompany thier partners on shopping jaunts. Even after marriage, couples should make an effort to involve themselves in their spouse's activites.

AN ATTRACTIVE SPOUSE
A man Needs a wife who looks good to him and will rarely appreciate her solely on her inner qualities.While this doesn't mean you should rush out to the nearest plastic surgoen, it does mean that you should take care of your lookseven after married."Men are visual creatures, but it doesn't mean he isn't capable of looking beyong the surface," says Thiam Hong.

DOMESTIC SUPPORT
Most men like having domestic chores like cooking and cleaning done for them.Your husband needs you to take care of things, him in particular.

ADMIRATION
Men wants their wives to be proud of them.So when you tell your husbnad that he's wonderful, it motivates him to achieve more."Expressing admiration for your spouse's actions or praising him gives him positive reinforcement and encourages him to excel,"says Daniel.Appreciation is one of the easiest needs to meet:a compliment can make your spouse's day, while constant nagging and critism can damage his self-esteem and your relationship.so be generous with praise, especailly when comes from the heart.

-From Simply Her magazine.

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